We all know that we are supposed to be reasonable, forgiving and patient. But it is hard to do so when under pressure.
For example, the Christian learns wonderful Biblical principles in church, Sunday School, or listening to Christian radio. The Buddhist or Taoist learns beautiful principles about remaining calm. Philosophy, popular psychology, and even old fashioned folk wisdom often point out the benefits of not getting angry, acting prudently and loving each other.
But when under stress, we become upset or angry. We then often say the wrong thing or feel the wrong thing (resentment). Then we escape into thinking, where we try to rearrange the past, excuse our failing, or worry and scheme about the future.
When we keep failing to apply the principles that we love, we become frustrated and angry at ourselves. But all this does is add another layer of upset.
At the Center For Common Sense Counseling, we teach the "how" of remaining patient and more forgiving.
By learning the simple technique of how to remain centered and calm, we are pre-armed with mindfulness. It is anger and upset that wash away patience and reason. In other words, we can learn how to hang onto our patience by not becoming upset in the first place. We can hang onto a forgiving attitude by not letting stress sneak up on us and render us judgmental.
It is spiritual discipline that we need. But not the type that comes from suppressing anger or from putting on a good face with seething resentment underneath.It is the discipline of learning how to get centered and then from that calm center of dignity clearly seeing our need for patience.
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"My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;
Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing." James 1: 2-4
Dr. Roland Trujillo, lecturer and author of 16 books, is one of the world's foremost authorities on Christian mindfulness meditation
